Let me start by saying this:
I hate the word balance.
Because when people say "you just have to find balance," what they often mean is: make every part of your life equal. And that’s just not real life. At least not in mine.
I’m a mother.
I’m a wife.
I’m a businesswoman.
I’m a founder.
I’m a member of the community.
I’m a friend.
And let’s be honest—I’m a part-time content creator, too.
So when someone asks how I “do it all,” I want to laugh a little… and then tell the truth.
The Glass Ball Analogy That Changed Everything
Years ago, I watched a video where a woman talked about life like juggling glass and plastic balls. She said:
“Some parts of your life are glass—if you drop them, they break. Others are plastic—they’ll bounce, and you can pick them back up later.”
That metaphor hit me deep. Because it gave me permission to stop pretending that every role in my life needed the same level of energy all the time.
Some days—some seasons—I prioritize my kids.
Other weeks, it’s marriage.
Sometimes, it’s business or Revive or my boutique or my personal brand.
And occasionally, it’s my friendships that get more of me.
And the truth is—I don’t feel guilty about that anymore.
But it took time to get there.
Dropping the Ball on Purpose
There was a time when I craved perfection. I wanted to show up fully everywhere, for everyone. And when I couldn’t, I felt like I was failing. Like I was letting someone down.
But now, I understand that letting someone down occasionally isn't a failure—it’s often just making a choice to honor something more urgent or sacred in that moment.
And I’ve learned that if someone is truly in my corner, they’ll understand that.
Because I’m not dropping glass. I’m letting the plastic bounce.
What Are My Glass Balls?
Not everything in my life is negotiable.
There are things I will not let drop—no matter what’s going on.
These are the non-negotiables in my world:
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My kids’ school programs
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Sports games and big milestones
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Morning drop-offs or after-school pickups
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Family dinner at night
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Being present when my kids or husband really need me
Those are my forever glass balls.
And I guard them closely—not because I’m perfect, but because I know what matters most.
My Version of Balance
So what does balance look like right now?
It looks like:
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Having an incredible husband who’s an equal partner, father, and teammate.
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Knowing when to lean on him—like when I have a work trip, a conference, a dinner, or an event.
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Showing up with intensity for my business dreams, then stepping away without guilt when my family needs more of me.
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Giving myself the same grace I’d give any woman I love.
Balance isn’t 50/50.
Balance is knowing what needs you most right now—and being confident enough to give it your focus without apology.
That’s not something I figured out overnight.
That’s something I’m living into, one season at a time.
And I know I’m not alone in that.
So if you’re a working mom, a founder, a woman chasing her dreams while raising her family—know this:
You’re not dropping the ball.
You’re just choosing the ones that matter most.
And that is real balance.
Keep going!
xoxo,
Esperanza Roby-Davis